In this context, evangelicals struggle to teach and live out a biblical theology of sex that centers on the marital covenant between husband and wife, affirms the playful, non-procreative dimensions of sex, and welcomes the possibility of new life, even without a central teaching on birth control. Browse our Full Library of online archives, including past issues of CT magazine. Access the Archives. To unlock this article for your friends, use any of the social share buttons on our site, or simply copy the link below.
Twenty years later, that ritual strikes me as almost innocuous — how much power do we give to the scribbled signature of a teenager who had only the faintest idea what sex was? Yet it also carried a psychological burden that many of my peers and I are still unloading. It held out the promise that if I remained pure, then God would reward good behavior with a husband — surely before I turned 30 so that we could have lots of children. Twenty years later, I no longer subscribe to purity culture, largely because it never had anything to say to Christians past the age of Yet lately, I also find myself mourning the loss of the coherent sexual ethic that purity culture tried to offer.
Y ou want to know what it's like to have sex before you're married? It's like building a big wall between you and God, a wall you wonder if you'll ever break through. I know because I had sex with my boyfriend.
We want ways to keep the spark alive in Christian marriage! It can be hard to find articles on sex in Christian marriage. As my husband and I grew together and got to know each other physically, as well as emotionally and spiritually, we came to understand that every life-giving marriage is connected to the ultimate Life-Giver—the One who made sexual intimacy in marriag. In , our house caught fire with my newborn daughter and me inside. Trapped by smoke and flames, I was unable to get to my baby in her crib.