I refer, of course, to the clitoris - the weird and wonderful thingy-ma-bob hopelessly devoted to making fireworks shoot out of our fannies. And with that as its first and sole function, imagine my concern when I consider its sometimes seemingly redundant role in my sex life. My boyfriend has never managed to give me a real orgasm by his own work - be it by tongue, hand or the big guy downstairs. I really do. The thing is, my boyfriend is all too aware that my sexual pleasure is just as important — if not more — than his own.
So not having an orgasm is obviously less fun than having an orgasm. If you cast your mind back over those people, were they the kind ones? Just as bad as the ones who go straight to sleep after sex are those who just assume you came. How a person behaves in bed is a microcosm of themselves.
Finishing first is something we often aspire to. As a kid if you finish all your vegetables, you get dessert. If you finish your undergrad at Harvard in three years instead of four, you get a pat on the back and probably a lucrative job.
Q: Sex with my husband is a bit How can we work on this? This is really good news! You know your body well enough to bring yourself to orgasm.