Talk to us. So often I hear about how much men need sex, but my husband has no interest in sex. The only time we make love is when I initiate it. Is there something wrong with me? Donalyn: Well first of all, there is nothing wrong with you!
Here's how to inoculate ourselves against negative ones. Verified by Psychology Today. The Dance of Connection. At the same time, you may want to push yourself to be experimental, especially if you have a loving and generous partner. Many people have to push themselves to get started, but once into lovemaking enjoy it and feel more connected. The desire for sex easily goes into hibernation after marriage and especially for women after kids.
Just the thought of having sex makes your head hurt, and maybe your heart as well. Many women in difficult marriages lack a desire for sexual intimacy with their mates. When a wife receives her husband during intercourse, she is, in a sense, allowing herself to be invaded by him —not just physically, but on emotional and spiritual levels, as well. Wives who feel loved and secure can welcome this invasion as an opportunity to experience intense intimacy and pleasure with their husbands. But wives who lack sexual desire or who feel animosity toward their husbands often experience sex as a violation rather than as loving communion.
Life happens, which means dry spells happen, am I right? No biggie—unless that dry spell morphs into more of a, well, severe drought. Can't remember the last time you wanted to have sex with your husband or partner?